Blog-tember Day 13: Your current relationship status. If dating/married, give us a glimpse of your story! If single, share about this special season.
A couple weeks ago, I wrote a post about singleness. There were words within me that I felt had been bubbling up for quite some time, and it felt good to get them out in the open. I was so glad to know that these words encouraged others. Around the same time that I wrote that post, I was struggling hard with my current marital status. Or lack thereof. I texted a close friend one day and told her that if one more friend had a baby, got engaged, or got married, I would die. I would LITERALLY DIE. Just a tad melodramatic. I've since mellowed out. And I'm still here. Ha. Anyways, the enemy is tricky. He really sucks. But what I've found is that doing the hard work of renewing my mind with truth is so worth it. Here are some of the lies he attacks me with and the truth I recite to myself when they are super loud:
The Enemy Says
God’s Word Says
You are less than because you are single.
You are whole and made with purpose.
For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works; which God has prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them.
Marriage is a reward and something you can earn.
All gifts come from Him. A gift cannot be earned.
Do not be deceived, my beloved brothers. Every good and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.
He will not be faithful to His word.
He is always faithful. Always.
He who calls you is faithful; He will surely do it.
-1 Thessalonians 5:24
You’re the only one who knows how you feel.
He knows your every thought.
O Lord, You have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discrern my thoughts from afar. -Psalm 139:1
You are without hope.
Your hope is in Christ.
We have this as a sure and steadfast anchor of the soul. -Hebrews 6:19
Your life will get better with marriage.
The heart is deceitful. There are trials in all seasons.
In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart, I have overcome the world.
Jesus is not enough.
Jesus more than enough.
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy. I came that they may have life and have it abundantly. -John 10:10
It’s ok to settle.
Never settle. God wants the best for you.
Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations.
Satisfy your desires with lust.
Value genuine love more than fleeting passions of lust.
Put to death, therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.
Feel sorry for yourself and jealous of your friends.
Be content and grateful for what you have been given.
Rejoice always, pray without ceasing, give thanks in all circumstances.
-1 Thessalonians 5:16-18
Your life will really begin with marriage.
Your life has already begun. (!!!)
So teach us to number our days that we may get a heart of wisdom.
I'm not the best at remembering these truths, but I know that they are there, waiting to be taken and claimed as my own weapon against a formidable enemy. Good thing I know Who wins in the end. My God is good.
How do you remind yourself of truth when you're tempted to be ungrateful or compare?